Summer is almost here, so many of us plan or go on sunny vacations away from home. It’s always so much fun! …until you get home.

You are going back to work after the holidays is worse than the fears on Sunday. You are supposed to feel happy and rested, but often you think the opposite.

Several factors can help keep you from getting the relaxation you expect from your vacation, but there are ways to make the transition smoother – and I spoke to experts to give you some tips.

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Prepare yourself for success: Even before the holidays start, you can get stressed by doing as much work as possible, explains digital wellness expert Mark Ostach.

“Anxiety leading up to a vacation can sometimes interfere with our ability to get into free time,” he says.

Managing Expectations: We often go on vacation to idealize it, says Christina Jeffrey, a licensed mental health consultant and chief reputation officer at Humantold, a New York-based provider of psychotherapy services.

“We often put a lot of pressure on ourselves — we’re like, I’m going to unplug, I’m going to relax — and it almost becomes something else on a to-do list. So we don’t get the space to indulge,” she says.

Please don’t overload your schedule: Whether you’re on vacation or back to work, take it easy.

“Take it easy as you return to the daily grind and make some plans the week after you return,” advises Melissa Dowd, a therapist at PlushCare, a virtual mental health and primary care company.

If possible, give yourself a day or two of buffer between your trip and work, so you have a chance to recharge.

To read more tips, click here.

What to Do Before Sending Your Child to Sleep Camp

Speaking of summer, sleep camp season is approaching, which can make parents anxious. My colleague Alia E. Dastagir wrote about steps parents can take to ensure their children are safe. Here’s an excerpt:

Sleepaway camp has long been an integral part of American culture, a rite of passage marked by the separation of families and the mixing of peers, a postponement of fencing in favor of nature, and an experience that, for those lucky enough to Be present can mark an important chapter in a young person’s journey to independence.

But the prospect of sleepover camp can also be stressful for parents who weigh the benefits of such settings against potential risks, including abuse by an adult or another child.

“It’s scary raising kids these days. I have a lot of empathy for a parent, myself, as well as a school counselor and therapist because so many recent news events have underscored that the places where we should feel safest are our children in the world.” don’t feel safe,” says Phyllis Fagell, author of “Middle School Matters: The 10 Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle School and Beyond — and How Parents Can Help.” “I understand the parental instinct to protect a child from all evil.”

Experts on parenting, abuse, and harassment say parents can make their children less vulnerable and ensure they choose camps committed to deterring perpetrators and addressing potential abuse.

Click here to read the rest of Alia’s piece.

Leaving your partner for someone else is more about you than about them.

Have you ever thought about leaving your partner for someone else? It’s not uncommon for people to get carried away with the promise of something new or “better” and choose to end their current relationship so they can start a new one, explains therapist and columnist Sara Kuburic. If you’re thinking about leaving your partner, she recommends parking your self-judgment and examining the following questions:

Why do I think this relationship will differ from the one I have now?

There is often hope that we only need a new partner when a relationship fails. It’s not always true. Knowing how we contributed to the relationship becoming something we no longer want can help us show ourselves differently in our next relationship.

Am I ready to start a new relationship right away?

You may be in love or eager to do something fun and exciting, but it can be good to pause and reflect. Are you healed from your last relationship? Have you processed what happened? Have you had time to identify any useful lessons from experience?

What is my motivation to enter into this new relationship?

Are you starting a new relationship because it gives you an excuse to leave your partner, avoid responsibility, or are you really in love and compatible with this new person? Ask yourself: Would I have left my relationship even if I had no one else to turn to? The new relationship can act as an escape route if the answer is no.

Click here to read the rest of the column.

Today’s Lectures

Today’s pet

Meet Fred.

This photo is from the archive! Fred is Bobbi Davenport’s shelter dog that he sent around this time last year. We love Fred, then and now.

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I have been blogging since August 2011. I have had over 10,000 visitors to my blog! My goal is to help people, and I have the knowledge and the passion to do this. I love to travel, dance, and play volleyball. I also enjoy hanging out with my friends and family. I started writing my blogs when I lived in California. I would wake up in the middle of the night and write something while listening to music and looking at the ocean. When I moved to Texas, I found a new place to write. I would sit in my backyard while everyone else was at work, and I could write all day.